25 Reasons Being a Single Parent is Awesome

 

When you are a single parent it is easy to get carried away with the lifestyle you could have if only you weren’t single. It would be nice to have a break from bathtime every now and again. It would be nice to actually complete a task without being interrupted to care for a screaming baby. It would be nice to have a nap that lasted more than 20 minutes. But, while all those things might happen in a partnership-style household, there is a lot of sharing that goes along with it. That’s why sometimes being a single parent is awesome. Your baby is yours – all yours – and you get to be there for every single moment and milestone – no need to share. Here are 25 reasons being a single parent is the most awesome thing you will ever do.

25 Reasons Being a Single Parent is Awesome

  1. You get the biggest hugs. They are big, they are tight, they are the best feeling in the world. When your little one scrapes his knee, you’re the one he runs to for a hug. When he is filled with joy, you’re the one he squeezes. When he isn’t feeling well and needs to cuddle, you’re the one he finds comfort in. Nothing beats a little one’s hugs.
  2. You are the only one who can make him smile just by walking in the room.  You are a stable presence in your baby’s life and you are there to give him everything he needs. He depends on you entirely, and he knows it. Don’t you love catching a glance of your baby gazing at you with that toothless grin? Nobody else can make him smile with just a look or a simple hello. You are his everything.
  3. You get to make all the choices. What school he should go to, religion he should practice, schedule he should maintain, manners he should use, etc. There is nobody there to tell you that your child shouldn’t eat a slice of pizza on those days you just don’t feel like cooking.
  4. You can be as obsessed as you want. Don’t you just want to hold, smell, and kiss your baby constantly? No judgement here. Sniff away my friends.
  5. They idolize you. You are literally their world. They want to be just like you. As annoying as it may be sometimes, it wont last forever. Be amazed at the things they pick up on and watch as they try to imitate your every action.
  6. What you say, goes. There is no one there oppose your decisions. If you tell your child he can’t have ice cream after dinner you won’t hear a “Well Dad said I could” as a response.
  7. You are there for all the firsts. You get to be there for their first steps, their first trip to the zoo, their first date, their first everything. There is no risk of your partner doing something for the first time without you.
  8. There are no secrets. Your little one will tell you about all of their secrets, because, who else do they have to tell?
  9. You are their hero. You are the only person who will scare the monsters away, protect them from thunder, and kiss their boo-boos bye-bye.
  10. It’s just the two of you. You don’t have to worry about taking care of your baby and the needs of a partner. No need to be concerned about satisfying someone else’s appetite, doing someone else’s laundry, or working around someone else’s schedule.
  11. You don’t have to battle the in-laws. Sometimes grandparents get ahead of themselves with crazy ideas or different discipline practices and there comes a time when you, as the parent, need to step in and speak up. Without a partner, you only have one set of grandparents to keep under control and, when they belong to you, it’s easier to express how you feel.
  12. There is no let down. With a partner comes expectations to help out. But like it or not, sometimes they let you down. When you are by yourself, there is no need to be disappointed in anyone else. And as a bonus, when an outsider does lend a helpful hand, it is the greatest feeling in the world.
  13. You appreciate the free moments more. Because they are few and far between, you appreciate every second of alone time more than you might with a partner. Hear the silence? Feel the silence? Be the silence.
  14. You have a unique bond. For the rest of your life you will have a connection with your child like nobody else does. Sure, there will be hurdles to jump but the relationship you have will undoubtedly stand the test of time.
  15. You become stronger than you ever imagined. You will work harder to provide for your child, even if you have financial help from the other parent. Providing doesn’t stop with money. You’ll find yourself working overtime to set a good example in your career, your personal life, your emotional stability, your kindness, and so forth. It’s not easy to keep it all together when you feel the weight of the world on your shoulders with no breaks in sight, but get through it and you will realize your incredible strength.
  16. You become a better you. You learn what works for you when raising your youngin’, sure, but you also learn to better yourself. Before becoming a mom I didn’t work-out or eat all that healthily, but now that my child is here, I want to lead by example that health is important. Nobody is around to push me to do these things but that also means that if I don’t show him, nobody else will. This applies to all things: attitude, health, dedication, determination, handiness, etc. We become better to make them better. It’s a win win.
  17. You learn. I was the most impatient person before having a baby and believe me, it did not change overnight once he was born. But after a while, when there is no one else around to chip in, you learn to adapt, cope, and/or change your mentality/actions. I’ve learned so much just by caring for another human being. The things that are meant to be experienced and cannot be taught are often the greatest lessons. And because of our kids, we are better people.
  18. Relationships Shm-relationships (that was a tough one to translate). It’s not that we want our kids to grow up and think relationships are a waste of time – if you’re in the right one, they’re awesome. However, we should teach them to understand that they don’t need a partner to be successful in life. They can stand alone on their two feet and still have everything they ever wanted. It just takes self-love and determination. This is a good reminder for you as well when you’re feeling alone and pouty. Look at you! You’re surviving and thriving!
  19. You get all the you-time you want. You think I’m crazy with this one, don’t you? Well here’s the deal – you have to spend breakfast to bedtime doing nothing but working hard for other people, whether it’s your boss or your kids, but when bedtime comes you don’t have to worry about paying attention to anyone else. Your “you time” can be anything you want it to be.
  20. You can break the rules… And get away with it. When people know that you’re a single parent, it’s much easier to be excused for a little chaos, for being a little late, looking a bit of a mess, or having a toy-scattered home. You’re on your own – people are willing to cut you some slack.
  21. You don’t have to be glammed up to feel pretty. This one is mostly for the moms. There is no partner living within your four walls that will expect you to have shaved legs, perfect hair, and a smooth complexion. Your child will think you are looking damn pretty regardless of your messy hair, baggy eyes, and bra-free attire. It’s a lot more fun to get dressed up when you don’t have to look like a dime all of the time.
  22. There’s no need to argue about money. When you are the only one earning it, you are the sole decision maker when it comes to spending it. It’s really as simple as that.
  23. Your kids learn more responsibility. When you’re a single parent it’s much easier (in some respects) to treat your child like an equal and give them more responsibility. You guys are a team and that means they have a bigger role in keeping the house picked up and working towards a common family/household goal. It’s a good thing for parents to share the chores and teamwork/responsibility is an excellent skill for your child to have.
  24. Your kids wont always be the center of attention. And that’s a good thing. In a single parent household there will be times where you cannot just stop what you’re doing to give your child undivided attention, even times when your personal space is more important than playing with your kids. Yep, I said it. And nobody else will be around to give them undivided attention either. This will prepare your kids for the “real world” and help them to understand their independence is a good thing. And finally….
  25. You get all the credit. Look at all you have accomplished, the things you have overcome, and the hard-work it took to get you to this point. Every time your child shows their manners, their smarts, their kindness, or their talents, you get the credit. It is you who taught them everything they know. Nobody is as strong as a single parent.

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This article has 6 Comments

  1. I’m so happy that you were able to relate to my thoughts and see the positive side! I hope your mom enjoys the post as well. 🙂 Thanks for sharing!

  2. I have a single mom and I know how hard it is being a single mother, but I had never thought about this in such a positive perspective until now. I wonder if my mom feels the same. I am gonna share this with her. Thanks for sharing!

  3. Yay! It’s definitely tough to always see the positives but it does get easier. Plus, once you realize that there are so many upsides it’s hard to forget about them. 🙂 Thanks so much for sharing! I hope they can find some comfort in this!

  4. There are definitely ups and downs to both sides! Thanks for reading 🙂

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